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Dear People,

It's no secret that a lot of us have problems letting go. Yet holding on to things, people or patterns that don't suit us anymore is a negative influence in our life. Mostly when letting go we focus on that negativity to 'convince' ourselves or we try to force ourselves to move on. Today I'm going to talk about a positive way to let go; through gratefulness.

Gratefulness in Letting go of things
The easiest way to let gratefulness in is if you want to let go of something that has served you for a long time, but isn't right for you any more. Maybe it's that favorite dress that you really should throw out or it's that necklace that you loved as a young teen but doesn't fit your style anymore. Or that hobby you used to love, but now don't really feel that connected too anymore.

If we would keep all the things that we feel sentimental about, our homes would overflow fast. Yes, it can be hard to let go of things, but by practicing gratefulness we can let go of them easier. If you still feel you can't let go of it after this exercise, you can also consider taking a photo or keep a small part as a memento.

Exercise
  1. Hold on to the thing you want to let go of
  2. You can touch, smell, hug the item while doing this exercise
  3. Replay in your mind all the beautiful memories you have with this item
  4. Sit quietly for a while with this item 
  5. Thank this item for the role it has played in  your life
  6. Put this item gently way - maybe in a pile to donate or to throw out
  7. Take a deep breath and say I release this item in gratitude
Gratefulness in Letting go by learning the lesson
Sometimes it's very hard to go of our negativity. We stay angry, we keep being in a tantrum because of 'unfairness' or we keep getting stuck in the same pattern that has negative consequences for us. It's pretty hard to let go of this as most of us just want the other person or the situation to change.

Since we have no control over that but we can deal with our own feelings, the healthy solution is to do that and let go. Letting go again, can be done on focusing on the emotions surrounding the situation, but we can also use our soul knowledge to learn the lesson and move on.

Exercise
  1. Ask your soul wisdom to shine a light on the situation
  2. Gently breath in and out
  3. Put your thoughts towards the situation
  4. Ask gently: "What is my lesson in this?"
  5. Listen to the answer and allow it's positive nature to help you grow
  6. Thank this situation for the role it played in your life
  7. Take a deep breath and say I release this situation in gratitude
If you don't get a positive answer, please keep on asking what the lesson is. A lesson is always positive, it's to help us grow as people and to show us our strengths and weaknesses. If you get a negative answer, it's often our ego that fills in the blanks or our emotions or fears.

Want to share your letting go story? Post a message to the blog, Facebook Fan Page or e-mail me.
Dear People,

Sensitivity is a two edged sword. Sometimes I have people in my practice who lament that they aren't sensitive enough: they miss the soft cues of their intuition, social circle and body and receive harsh wake up calls as a result. Other people lament that they are too sensitive and have trouble handling second hand items, social situations or have a lot of physical problems. Affirm away to help you reach the right amount of sensitivity or help you deal with the amount of sensitivity that you have.

I write my affirmations in different levels so you can see what resonates with you and what you want to work on. You might start with a lower level that resonates and then move your way up.

Pick and choose what works for you and affirm away (I recommend three times a day if you can manage it).

I can (easily) handle being sensitive to myself
I can (easily) handle being sensitive to others
I can (easily) handle being sensitive to emotions
I can (easily) handle being sensitive to energy
I can (easily) handle being sensitive
I welcome the right level of sensitivity
I (easily) deal with my level of sensitivity

I choose to be sensitive to my needs
I choose to be sensitive to my wants
I choose to be sensitive to my intuition
I choose to be sensitive to my guides
I choose to be sensitive to others
I choose to be sensitive to myself
I choose to be sensitive to the world
I choose to be sensitive to the earth
I choose to be sensitive to the environment

I choose to deal easily with the perceived downsides of being sensitive
I choose to see the positives in my sensitivity
I choose to make my sensitivity an asset in my life

Have an affirmation you want to share? Don't hesitate to post it in a comment on the blog or on the Facebook Fan Page. You can also share your affirmation stories in the practice, by e-mail or publicly online.

Dear People,

Often I have people in the practice who feel trapped after years of setting aside their wants and needs to help others or to do what they've been told 'they should be doing' to be a good person. They have lost touch with their own inner guidance and feel overwhelmed, overburdened and emotionless. Questions like: "What would you really want to do?" are impossible to answer for them. Discouraged they try to find an answer outside of themselves, but that doesn't give the best results. Even if you don't recognize yourself in this description the interview style exercise might still help you find out more about yourself.

Finding yourself interview style
Don't worry if you have trouble answering some of these questions, if you were doing a true interview, the person you were interviewing might have difficulties too. The purpose of an exercise like this is to get your thoughts and ideas flowing and to see if you can find common denominators in your answers. You might also find more questions within yourself based on these and answer those as well.

It can also help to do this interview with a trusted friend and help each other out. You can of course skip questions you don't like.

Background questions
What's your name?
What is your age?
What is your occupation?

Childhood
How would you describe your childhood?
What is your favorite childhood memory?
What is is your least favorite childhood memory?
What do you miss from your childhood?

Young Adulthood
What plans did you have as a teenager?
What dreams did you have as a teenager? 
What did you want to do do/become?
What mattered to you the most during those years?

Life
If your life was a book, what title would it have?
If your life was a movie, what genre would it be?
If your life was a song, what kind of emotion would it evoke?
If you could write sequels of your life, what would be in it?

Social
How would your friends describe you?
On what points do you agree with them?
On what points do you disagree with them?
What do your friends have in common with each other?
What do you appreciate in your friends?

Changes
If you could change one thing about your life, what would it be?
What have you done to make changes in that area of your life?
If you could change one thing in your past, what would it be?
What have you learned from that experience?
If you could change one thing in your family, what would it be?
If you could change one thing in your job, what would it be?
If you could change one thing about your body, what would it be?

Additions
If you had more money, would you be happier? What would you spend it on?
If you had more time, would you be happier? What would you spend it on?
If you had more energy, would you be happier? What would you spend it on?
If you have more hobby's, would you be happier? What kind of hobbies would they be?
If you had more friends, would you be happier? What kind of friends would they be?
If you could add one character trait, what would it be? How would that change your life?

Removals
If you could remove something from your life, what would it be?
If you could remove someone from your life, who would it be? Any more people you'd like to remove?
If you could remove character traits, what would you remove in yourself? In your spouse/father/mother/friends?

Want to talk about your answers? Post a message to the blog, Facebook Fan Page or e-mail me.