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Dear People,

A while ago I talked to several people about the differences between approval, understanding and love. When we are kids, our parents approval equal to their love, as we receive rewards and kindness when they approve of our behavior. Understanding seems also very closely linked to care, as we seem to think that when people understand us they care and if they care, they'd understand us. Sometimes people feel that if you understand, you'd approve, but that isn't always the case.

Seeing these three as separate entities will help you receive the love people have for you, even if you don't get their approval or understanding

Approval
Approval literally means the action of approving something or the belief that something is good or acceptable. If you look back upon your own life, you might have found actions from your loved one's that you didn't approve off, while it didn't negate or diminish your love for them at all. An extreme form of disapproval for example is that we all know that people do not approve of drug use, but you need only look at how devastated families with an addict in it are to recognize that there certainly is love involved.

It's also extremely interesting to see who you feel you need approval from. If you still need your parents approval, then on some level, it almost always means that you want their love instead. Focus on why you haven't felt their love, connect to their love and you will notice your need for approval will disappear. If you want the approval of your boss, your partner or your child, you might have issues with self-confidence or self-worth.

Next time when somebody disapproves of you, notice how it affects you and recognize that you still have their love. Focus on that path you want to walk and the human being you want to be. Often people disapprove of what they conceive are risks that are too great, but that are absolutely right for the person involved. Also freely understand that when you disapprove of something, you are still able to love the person.

Understanding
Understanding literally means sympathetic awareness or tolerance. It means that you can empathize with somebody, but doesn't mean that you approve or give zero consequences. So people can understand that you are late because you overslept, but still make a note on your record.

Asking for people's understanding and then trying to force them to 'see it your way', 'to approve' or 'to prove that they care' is a losing battle. People often freely give their understanding, but still don't approve as they would have made different choices themselves. They might understand, but still be disappointed that you didn't follow through or expect you to still do what you said.

If you try to use understanding to control others, you are missing an essential point. They are still being sympathetic to you, they still show care, they are just not doing what you want based on that understanding. Accept their loving understanding and recognize that sometimes you will receive understanding and love, but not approval. Remind yourself how often you've been understanding, but still wanted consequences for the other person.

Want to talk about approval, love and understanding? Don't hesitate to post it in a comment on the blog or on the Facebook Fan Page. You can also share your stories or questions in the practice, by e-mail or publicly online.
Dear People,

A lot of us know that we should keep healthy boundaries and that this will greatly improve our lives. Even so, it can be hard as we can bow down towards guilt, obligation, fear or social pressure. So today I'm writing some affirmations to help keep boundaries strong and healthy.

I write my affirmations in different levels so you can see what resonates with you and what you want to work on. You might start with a lower level that resonates and then move your way up.

Pick and choose what works for you and affirm away (I recommend three times a day if you can manage it).

I give myself the right to have boundaries
I gift myself boundaries
I gift others boundaries

I'm willing to create healthy boundaries in all aspects of my life
I'm willing to have healthy boundaries in all aspects of my life
I'm willing to listen to my healthy boundaries in all aspects of my life
I'm willing to protect my healthy boundaries in all aspects of my life
I'm willing to re-asses my healthy boundaries in all aspects of my life

I set healthy boundaries with my boss
I set healthy boundaries with colleagues 
I set healthy boundaries with clients
I set healthy boundaries with companies/competitors
I set healthy boundaries at work

I respect the healthy boundaries of my body
I respect the healthy boundaries of my heart
I respect the healthy boundaries of my mind
I respect the healthy boundaries of my spirit
I set healthy boundaries for myself

I set healthy boundaries in my social life
I set healthy boundaries with my friends
I set healthy boundaries with my family
I set healthy boundaries with my partner
I set healthy boundaries with my children 
I set healthy boundaries with others
 
I protect my healthy boundaries
I easily protect my healthy boundaries
I joyfully protect my healthy boundaries
I give myself the freedom of healthy boundaries

Have an affirmation you want to share? Don't hesitate to post it in a comment on the blog or on the Facebook Fan Page. You can also share your affirmation stories in the practice, by e-mail or publicly online.
Dear People,

A lot of people have experience with enjoying the Flow, that time when you feel strong healthy and vibrant and everything is just flowing like it should. Your focus is happy and in the moment and things just seamlessly fall into place. As a Psychic I don't only work with that type of Flow, but also with different types of energies that I also call flow. Today I'm writing to you how I do that and give you two exercises to try for yourself.

Flow of your life
Just as everybody else I always have projects, wants and needs in my life. I'm typically a planner so I like to see what I would like to do and what my goals are going to be. That allows me to be mindful, review and reflect on where my energy is going and what I'm doing with it. The more in tune I am with myself, the easier it is to be flexible, joyful and redirect what doesn't work for me.

However, I also check up on the flow of how my life is going.
Questions I often ask myself are:
  • Am I doing things in the right order?
  • Am I getting signals I should change course?
  • Am I getting signals I'm overlooking something?

For some people that can mean I suddenly 'choose to drop a subject', while for me there are obvious signals that things aren't right. I like to tell people that if you want pears, you can stand under the pear tree and shake the tree, but any pears that fall down are unripe, so it's better to wait until they are ready to let go.

Often I check the energy of the day, week or month and see what I can best do with it. It's sometimes pretty hard to let go of a project that I care about for a while, but it always turns out for the better. It's important to me that things are the 'right fit' and not just the first option or first chance.

A good example of this was when my husband was getting offers for the sale of his home. Naturally this process is very stressful, but I kept telling him the right person just hadn't showed up yet. He felt very anxious waiting, but in the end we have accepted the offer of the third person interested. It has been a blessing in so many ways, so he is now convinced that this is important.

Meeting the flow of your life is an important way to find yourself in the Flow regularly. It helps you feel what is right for you at the moment, releases you from obligation that don't work and helps you to stay flexible.

Exercise to check the flow of your life
  • Make a list of what projects you feel are important
  • Rank them in the order you think they should be done
  • Ask Spirit/The Universe/God/your intuition to rank them in which order they should flow into your life. 
  • If you have trouble with the previous step, simple use a random number generator to rank them or write them down on separate cards, shuffle and draw the order
  • What in the new order is surprising? Does it bring you any new knowledge or insights?

Flow of your body
Noticing the flow of your body - where are you at ease, where are you keeping tension, where are you looking for sustenance or for relaxation - immediately helps improve your life. A lot of people who do productivity work will try to find out at which times they are most productive and use that knowledge to optimize their schedules. There are also many books on how movement, body posture etc. can help us feel more relaxed, stronger, more motivated etc.

There are many ways to notice and work with the flow of your body and work with the energy you have or even raise it, instead of going against the flow and exhausting yourself. After you noticed what you need for your body, don't hesitate to give it to yourself.

Exercise to feel the flow of your body
  • Make sure you aren't disturbed for 5-10 minutes
  • Close your eyes
  • Breath in and out in a relaxed fashion, slowing down your breath 
  • Give each of your body parts attention, starting from the feet up towards the top of your head 
  • Listen to each part and notice if it holds tension
  • Feel how tired/thirsty/hungry your body is
  • Feel the mood of your body, is it angry, relaxed, happy, joyful or....
  • Do you notice any blockages?
  • If you have a gift to give your body - what would it be?
  • Slowly open your eyes 
  • Enjoy a bit of water, tea or something else to drink

A small list of what you might need could be:
  • Give yourself enough sleep
  • Give yourself enough food
  • Give yourself enough relaxation
  • Do some yoga
  • Take a walk 
  • Do some other exercise
  • Take a break
  • Take a holiday

My favorite ways of body flow are getting regular massages (keeps me very well connected and grounded in where I hold tension) and jumping on my trampoline whenever I get annoyed with paperwork.

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Dear People,

Today I'm writing some EFT sentences on manipulation. We all manipulate people even though we know that it isn't right. When we are afraid we won't get what we want or need, we might resort to guilt-tripping, sabotaging ourselves, victimhood or other negative behaviors. We are easy to manipulate when we refuse to see the truth, respond out of guilt, fear or shame or are afraid to lose someone or something. When we are manipulative, we might get what we want, but we don't feel good about it. When we are manipulated, we feel betrayed, upset and hurt.

So start clearing your pain and unhappiness connected to manipulation today and keep yourself from being easily manipulated. Start clearing your own manipulative tendencies to be happier with yourself and more confident in your dealings with others.

Manipulation of others
Even though I feel manipulation is the only way, I choose to find a healthier outlet
Even though I feel manipulation is the only way, I choose to walk an ethical path
Even though I feel manipulation is justified, I choose to find a healthier outlet
Even though I feel manipulation is easier, I choose to walk an ethical path

Manipulation tactics
Even though I want to be a victim, I choose to let go of this manipulation tactic
Even though I want to sabotage myself,  I choose to let go of this manipulation tactic
Even though I want to pretend I'm helpless, I choose to let go of this manipulation tactic
Even though I want to have revenge, I choose to let go of this manipulation tactic
Even though I want to guilt trip <person X>, I choose to let go of this manipulation tactic
Even though I want to use my body, I choose to let go of this manipulation tactic
Even though I want to use my wiles, I choose to let go of this manipulation tactic
Even though I want to have it my way regardless of the cost, I choose to let go of this manipulation tactic

Feeling manipulated
Even though I feel manipulated, I choose to stand strong
Even though I feel manipulated, I choose to withstand manipulation
Even though I feel manipulated, I choose what's right for me

Releasing past manipulation by person
Even though I feel manipulated by <person X>, I choose to forgive and move on
Even though I feel manipulated by <person X>, forgive everybody involved
Even though I feel manipulated by <person X>, I accept the past and move on
Even though I feel manipulated by <person X>, I release myself and others from this cycle
Even though I feel manipulated by <person X>, I heal myself and others completely

Releasing past manipulation by feeling
Even though I feel manipulated by my guilt, I release my guilt and release myself from this cycle
Even though I feel manipulated by my shame, I release my shame and release myself from this cycle
Even though I feel manipulated by my fear, I release my fear and release myself from this cycle
Even though I feel manipulated by my anger, I release my anger and release myself from this cycle
Even though I feel manipulated by my <emotion>, I release my <emotion> and release myself from this cycle

Want to chat about moving on in a healing way? Post a message on the blog, Facebook Fan Page or e-mail me for a personalized EFT sentence!
Dear People,

For a lot of us, it's hard to work with our natural rhythm, the speed of movement that is right for us. Often, we want to move faster then our bodies, minds, heart or even energy bodies can cope with causing problems for ourselves. It's also possible that we are holding back, moving slower out of fear, which will also create problems. So that's why today's affirmations are about finding and maintaining your natural rhythm.

I write my affirmations in different levels so you can see what resonates with you and what you want to work on. You might start with a lower level that resonates and then move your way up.

Pick and choose what works for you and affirm away (I recommend three times a day if you can manage it).

I'm aware of my bodies natural rhythm
I'm aware of my hearts natural rhythm 
I'm aware of my minds natural rhythm 
I'm aware of my spirits natural rhythm

I listen to my bodies natural rhythm
I listen to my hearts natural rhythm
I listen to my minds natural rhythm
I listen to my spirits natural rhythm

I work with my bodies natural rhythm
I work with my hearts natural rhythm
I work with my minds natural rhythm
I work with my spirits natural rhythm

I appreciate my bodies natural rhythm
I appreciate my hearts natural rhythm
I appreciate my minds natural rhythm
I appreciate my spirits natural rhythm

I love my bodies natural rhythm
I love my hearts natural rhythm
I love my minds natural rhythm
I love my spirits natural rhythm

I live my life easily within my natural rhythm
I live my life joyfully within my natural rhythm
I live my life peacefully within my natural rhythm
I live my life gratefully within my natural rhythm
I live my life lovingly within my natural rhythm


Have an affirmation you want to share? Don't hesitate to post it in a comment on the blog or on the Facebook Fan Page. You can also share your affirmation stories in the practice, by e-mail or publicly online.

I talked about the importance of grounding, to make sure you stay connected to your body and the now, but today I want to speak about cleansing. There are many situations where I recommend cleansing yourself. Today I'd be speaking about these situations and give you many ways to cleanse yourself. If you haven't done it before, a mindful cleansing ritual might give you that energy boost you've been waiting on.

When is cleansing necessary?
I would say cleansing is necessary when you feel that you need to do so. Some people have regular cleansing rituals, while others just connect with their own energy field to see when it's necessary. I regularly recommend cleansing to clients if I notice the energy field being weak or overwhelmed.

If you don't have time to check in with me or don't feel confident checking your own energy field, you can check the underlying list and see if you'd fit any of these situations:
  • Your energy field is weak and you have picked up emotions/energy from others
  • When you have been sick
  • When you notice yourself being in moods/low energy/small complaints that don't seem to end
  • When you have been very upset and it feels like you can't let go/move on
  • When you went through a shocking situation
  • When you've been in contact with toxic substances, toxic situations or toxic people
  • When you want to take a new step and feel some of the old is still within you

Why would you cleanse?
When your energy field is strong it will process all your emotions, your energy and energy you pick up from outside sources (human, animal or objects) easily and fast. Sometimes things happen (see the list above) and your energy field becomes overwhelmed and then it's a matter of time before problems start occurring on the physical, emotional and mental planes.

Usually the energy field will balance and heal itself when you take actions that automatically help your field, but sometimes those aren't enough and a cleanse is the perfect way to boost yourself.

How can you cleanse?
There are many different ways to cleanse, so pick from the list what you like to see what kind of results you have. Generally cleansing works best when it's something that encourages your energy field to flow naturally (so a flow of water is better then sitting water), it's a way to tune into higher energy vibrations (access them with mantra's or intent) or it's a way to process energy faster (releasing through journalling or EFT)

Here is a list of things that you can try:
  • Take a show
  • Stream cold water past your arms/hands
  • Stroking movements down your arms/legs
  • Yoga 
  • Swimming
  • Intent 
  • Affirmations
  • Meditation/Visualisation
  • Singing Bowls
  • Drumming
  • Mantra's
  • Crystals (Selenite especially)
  • Forest Bathing
  • Journalling
  • EFT

Want to share your own cleansing techniques or talk to me about cleansing? Don't hesitate to post it in a comment on the blog or on the Facebook Fan Page. You can also share your cleansing stories by e-mail or talk to me in the practice.
Dear People,

In 2018 I wrote 7 columns during the year for the Delft op Zondag newspaper to help people create a happier, healthier and more relaxed life by following my transformation plan. I've translated them from Dutch to English with small edits. If you rather read the Dutch versions, you can find them on my website. I'm sharing Column number 7 which was published on December 2nd 2018.

Ending in gratitude

Gratitude is the natural conclusion of this series of columns, because in this December month it always plays a huge role in our lives. We, of course, think of completing things at the end of the year, but are also grateful for all forms of light: dear friends or family, kind employers, our pets, etc.

When we look in gratitude at what we have accomplished, there is room for joy and positivity. Gratitude makes it clear why we wanted a certain result and gives us space to easier maintain goals or tackle them. If you know why you are doing what you are doing, it’s much easier to keep it up.

Always celebrate all things that go well, especially when you are busy with changes. Every step forward is one step you have made. It is easier to look at what could have been done better or different with a kind perspective if you practice gratitude. That helps us to refine or adjust goals while feeling joy. Far more often, people look in anger or frustration at what has failed and therefore slow themselves down or get mired in pain. We grow best in a positive environment, with compliments, gratitude and love. Give yourself that, but also don’t forget to share that with others.

So take the time to thank those people or things that have helped you. With a sweet compliment or with a special gesture that will warm their hearts and yours. It can be as simple as a small card or as elaborate as a great gift, but making the effort to make a gesture is all that is needed.

Bring even more positivity into your life by making gratitude a daily habit. By keeping a gratitude diary, in which you write 1 or more things every day, you begin to feel this positive force more consciously. In the beginning it may feel uncomfortable, but soon you will notice that many positive things happen to you and that focusing on them brings even more joy.

Thank you very much for reading these columns, may the New Year ensure that you can shine with heart and soul. Do you want help with changes? Then you know how to find me and my practice.

Heart and Soul's transformation plan
  • Celebrate things that go well
  • Thank someone else
  • Seek gratitude in every day    
Dear People,

In 2018 I wrote 7 columns during the year for the Delft op Zondag newspaper to help people create a happier, healthier and more relaxed life by following my transformation plan. I've translated them from Dutch to English with small edits. If you rather read the Dutch versions, you can find them on my website. I'm sharing Column number 6 which was published on October 7th 2018.    

The power of acceptance
During changes we often notice that our critical voice is very present: impatience and irritation are increased. We see what is going wrong in our efforts to change and that is what we want to change right now or better yet yesterday. If this voice is out of balance, the amount of negativity becomes overwhelming and our energy decreases.

So always take the time to temper your critical voice by keeping a kind perspective when looking at yourself. Any result that you are not happy with has, after all, yielded experience. There is reason we say: "We learn from our mistakes". Accept this voice, but let it always be respectful. Don’t let it insult or belittle you.

Get to know the opposite voice: the encouraging voice or the inner cheerleader. In many of us it is insufficiently developed as we haven’t received enough of it from teachers, parents or friends. We all need to have a voice that encourages us, comforts us if we have not succeeded and rejoices when there are results to be celebrated. Take the time to consciously call on this voice regularly, preferably after you have heard your critical voice.

Once both voices get attention, we will get a more balanced picture and that makes it easier for us to accept our path in life. Maybe you have made a detour, but then you have (possibly) seen something beautiful that you had missed otherwise or learned something important. Your path always differs from that of someone else, but that does not make it any less beautiful.

Heart and Soul's transformation plan

  • Temper your critical voice
  • Get to know your inner cheerleader
  • Accept yourself and your path
Dear People,

In 2018 I wrote 7 columns during the year for the Delft op Zondag newspaper to help people create a happier, healthier and more relaxed life by following my transformation plan. I've translated them from Dutch to English with small edits. If you rather read the Dutch versions, you can find them on my website. I'm sharing Column number 5 which was published on September 2nd 2018.

Growing by learning

In September the summer feeling starts to wear off and the schools start again: an excellent time to start learning again. We can always grow, regardless of our age and our stage of life. Everyone benefits when knowledge is increased!

Around this time, there are many courses, workshops and other activities that start again, making it interesting to look around at what’s happening in your city. Nowadays we are even able to learn from home, including at my practice through Hart en Ziel Education (edu.hartenziel-online.nl). That way you can get started with something new at your own pace and from the comfort of your home. Learning is fun and gives a lot of satisfaction and relaxation.

Of course you can learn something new, but it can also be very worthwhile to look at your weak spots. If you find it hard to stand up for yourself, have trouble with your weight or creating balance in your life, then looking for a workshop or course that matches this is a valuable opportunity for growth. It is also reassuring to see that others also have problems with something that really bothers you in yourself.

If you have taken steps to learn and grow, then it is equally important to also celebrate that growth. A positive view of yourself helps you to tackle things over and over again. So celebrate your growth by seeing your victories. The time you finally stood up for yourself, lost that kilo of weight or that relaxed day that you enjoyed so much: celebrate them in gratitude.

Heart and Soul's transformation plan
  • Access new knowledge
  • Learn from your weak spots
  • Celebrate your growth

Dear People,

In 2018 I wrote 7 columns during the year for the Delft op Zondag newspaper to help people create a happier, healthier and more relaxed life by following my transformation plan. I've translated them from Dutch to English with small edits. If you rather read the Dutch versions, you can find them on my website. I'm sharing Column number 4 which was published on August 5th 2018.  

Reflection invites inspiration

If you have managed to get started this summer with more peace, happiness and energy, inspiration will automatically come into play. If there is more room in our lives, because it is not completely packed, there will be room to listen to ourselves again. There is also more inspiration available from outside sources when we have time to see them.

Especially during the summer period, many nice things are organised that can inspire us. Go to a fun festival or museum, take the time to read a book or watch a movie. Try your hand at a new skill by going to an interesting workshop or take the time to do something at home by yourself. Before you know it you notice that the positive energy asks you to make changes in your life.

If you really want to be sure that the changes are right for you, take a moment of reflection. Look at your routine; what is in there what might no longer belong or what do you miss? Reflect on your goals, do you have time and energy for them, and what have you achieved already? It can be painful to see what does not work, but it also gives you opportunities to make adjustments. If you are unable to adjust if you have already lost your way to yourself, you can of course choose to call in help.

Usually we find it difficult to create something new in our lives, because it all has to be perfect or because we want to be sure that it will work or fits well in our lives. The summer period invites you to just try something new and give yourself permission to see what happens. Enjoy!

Heart and Soul's transformation plan
  • Get inspired
  • Take a moment of reflection
  • Try something new
Dear People,

In 2018 I wrote 7 columns during the year for the Delft op Zondag newspaper to help people create a happier, healthier and more relaxed life by following my transformation plan. I've translated them from Dutch to English with small edits. If you rather read the Dutch versions, you can find them on my website. I'm sharing Column number 3 which was published on July 1st 2018.  

The tranquility of summer

The holiday time is a great time to live at a slower pace. The weather is good, there is more energy and people are therefore happier. Of course, many people want to fill their vacation time with all kinds of new projects or things that they haven’t had time for. Nevertheless, I always recommend people to take that extra rest in the summer, because that is paid triple in being less likely to get ill in autumn and winter.

So if you are always so happy with that holiday feeling, then it is time to create it at home. Give yourself an extra holiday this summer by giving yourself permission to do nothing and focus on enjoying. Talk to a friend, sit in the garden with your favourite book or take a nap.

If you want to experience that peacefulness, then it is time to reduce the tempo. Many people live at a much too high pace, so they overload their bodies and always feel that they are out of time. Summer invites you to have a slower pace, especially with warmth and it’s effects on our bodies, so get a bit slower to work or go for a leisurely walk instead of hurrying. Choose slower food (BBQ) or eat at a later, so you can cook at a more leisurely pace and give yourself more free time.

With that positivity and peace it becomes easier to tackle an irritation point, so choose something that bothers you and that you really want to change. That can be a room that needs to be cleaned up, the kilos that you want to get rid of or for example the relationship that you want to improve. Take a look at other articles on the blog for EFT sentences or affirmations to get started or call to discuss your irritation point and how to tackle it.

Heart and Soul's transformation plan
  • Free up time to enjoy
  • Decrease your pace
  • Tackle an irritation point
Dear People,

In 2018 I wrote 7 columns during the year for the Delft op Zondag newspaper to help people create a happier, healthier and more relaxed life by following my transformation plan. I've translated them from Dutch to English with small edits. If you rather read the Dutch versions, you can find them on my website. I'm sharing Column number 2 which was published on May 6th 2018.      

The power of happiness

Last time I wrote about how to make a change successful and of course the first step was to create enough energy. Often, people with new energy want to get started right away, but keeping the energy level high is much more important. That is why today I will write about the biggest energy booster of life: happiness.

For many people, happiness is something that happens to you. You win something, someone gives you an unexpected compliment or you may receive a gift. That gives a nice boost, but you can also actively add happiness in your life. Do not wait for luck or happiness to find you, but actively search for it in your daily life.

An important way to make you feel happier is to think about things that you can derive happiness from. Daily gratitude is a ritual that shows you how much good you already have in your life. Gratitude for small things, such as a bird you hear whistling, but also for bigger things like friendship, love and safety helps you focus on the positive. When you practice gratitude mindfully, feelings of happiness grow and you remain more positive and energetic.

In order to make the right changes, it is important that we look critically at our lives, but that often means that people are focused on what they feel is not good enough. This makes it more difficult to be satisfied and at ease with ourselves. Satisfaction helps with quiet strong energy by focusing on what is successful, what was a good first attempt or what does go well. Regularly look around with satisfaction in your own life and notice the difference that it makes.

Finally, it is important to make yourself happy by doing and receiving fun and nice things. You can start quietly with a nice music setting or cooking something tasty, but of course by also visiting nice events or friends. Take some time to do things that are fun and happy and you will see that the other things in your life will run more smoothly as a result.

Heart and Soul's transformation plan
  • Be actively grateful every day
  • Learn to be satisfied
  • Make yourself happy
Dear People,

In 2018 I wrote 7 columns during the year for the Delft op Zondag newspaper to help people create a happier, healthier and more relaxed life by following my transformation plan. I've translated them from Dutch to English with small edits. If you rather read the Dutch versions, you can find them on my website. I'm sharing Column number 1 which was published on April 1st 2018.  

A new start

In the spring time it’s natural that the itch to tackle things starts to bug us. Nowadays it can be tough to find the necessary extra energy to get things done, because of stress, goals and expectations. For many of us, daily life can already feel like a struggle.

The next coming months I will write 7 columns as a step-by-step plan to a happier, more relaxed life, based on my work at Hart en Ziel. During sessions people not only receive knowledge, but I also help permanently change behavior. I remove old emotions, thought patterns and other blockages.

My greatest wisdom to make a great new start is not to start making plans. First you have to create the energy you need. You need to tackling time and energy wasters. Where does time go that you would rather spend differently? Do you sometimes sit behind PC, TV or phone for too long? Do you help others at the expense of yourself? Remove time wasters and you will have enough energy left to start your new life. Permanently low in your energy? Then effectively organizing your day is even more important.

Divide your new project into feasible steps. Your motivation remains high and therefore so does your energy. So don’t start project: weight loss by going to the gym five times, because starting out nobody can keep that up. Start with some information, trial lessons, better food and more sleep and then you will notice that you get used to your new rhythm faster. Increase your gym time step by step.

It makes sense that occasionally things go wrong, so allow yourself your mistakes. Reflect at the end of the day or week where your energy and attention went. If something had higher priority, and you agree with that, please be satisfied with what you have done, even if it wasn’t what you initially wanted. Have you been distracted? Choose to do something about it, forgive yourself and move on.

Heart and Soul's transformation plan
  • Create enough energy by tackling time wasters
  • Make a feasible step-by-step plan
  • Regularly reflect on your goals and adjust your behavior or your goals
Dear People,

Today I'm writing some EFT sentences to help release unhealthy patterns. Humans are being of habit and we often do things the same way even when they no longer suit us. We keep going to the same job, taking to the same friends and doing the same hobby's, because they are familiar and make us feel safe. However, sometimes we have changed too much or outgrown things, but find it hard to make changes that reflect that.

Another way of finding unhealthy patterns in our life, is when we keep doing something the same way, never getting the right results. We might even feel unlucky or even cursed to repeat things, but we can free ourselves.

Use these EFT sentences to work on letting go of your own unhealthy patterns.
Reflection
Even though I feel stuck, I'm willing to reflect on what needs to change
Even though changes make me uncomfortable, I'm willing to reflect on what needs to change
Even though I'm used to doing things this way, I'm open to finding new better ways
Even though I'm afraid I've outgrown things, I'm open to finding new better things
Even though I'm afraid I've outgrown relationships, I'm open to find new happier relationships
Even though I'm worried about changing, I happily change every day

Unhealthy pattern
Even though I'm ashamed I have an unhealthy pattern with money, I choose to change
Even though I'm ashamed I have an unhealthy pattern with friendships, I choose to change
Even though I'm ashamed I have an unhealthy pattern with family, I choose to change
Even though I'm ashamed I have an unhealthy pattern with love relationships, I choose to change
Even though I'm ashamed I have an unhealthy pattern with sex, I choose to change
Even though I'm ashamed I have an unhealthy pattern with my body, I choose to change

Even though I'm ashamed I have an unhealthy pattern with X, I choose to change
Even though I feel guilty that I have an unhealthy pattern with X, I forgive myself completely
Even though I feel upset that I have an unhealthy pattern with X, I choose to move on
Even though I feel hopeless about my unhealthy pattern with X, I trust that I can change
Even though I feel hurt that I have an unhealthy pattern with X, I let go
Even though I feel that an unhealthy pattern with X is part of my identify, I choose to transform
Even though I don't know how, I choose to build a healthy pattern
Even though I feel cursed with unhealthy pattern X, I free myself completely

New patterns
Even though I might still fall back into an unhealthy pattern, I celebrate all changes
Even though I have trouble sticking to the new pattern, I am proud of myself
Even though I feel discouraged about sticking to the new pattern, I give myself the encouragement I need
Even though I don't know who I am without unhealthy pattern X, I celebrate me
Even though I'm afraid of the new pattern, I choose to see the positive changes
Even though I fear I won't stick to the new pattern, I give myself time and effort
Even though I am worried about how others react, I want to stick to my new pattern
Even though the new pattern feels unfamiliar, I strive to make this healthy pattern a habit


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Dear People,

A lot of us want to be more creative in life or want to enjoy our creativity more. When we create, consciously or subconsciously, either light, beauty and joy enter our lives, because spirit moves through us, or pain, hurt and difficulty rises up, because ego manipulates us. I believe I'm a very creative person and I believe creativity is wonderful and the more we allow it in our lives, the better our lives become. So today I'm writing about it to help you create more wonder in your life.

I write my affirmations in different levels so you can see what resonates with you and what you want to work on. You might start with a lower level that resonates and then move your way up.

Pick and choose what works for you and affirm away (I recommend three times a day if you can manage it).

I choose to be open to the flow of creativity
I choose to open my heart to creativity
I choose to open my spirit to creativity
I choose to express my creativity without judgement
I choose to see myself as a creative spirit
I embrace my creativity
I honor my creativity

I creatively solve problems
I creatively solve difficulties
I creatively deal with obstacles
I creatively express my joy
I creatively express my happiness
I creatively express my wisdom
I creatively express my feelings
I creatively express my spirit

I see creativity in nature
I see creativity in others
I see creativity everywhere around me
I see creativity within me

I enjoy the creativity of nature
I enjoy the creativity of others
I enjoy creativity in my life
I enjoy my creativity

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Dear People,

The year has already started for a full week and have finished my first day of work, but I'm still sitting down to write to about what people have asked me in the lead up to the new year and this past week. As somebody who loves doing reviews and reflections, making resolutions and being in tune with my life - I loved these questions.

What did you most love in 2018?
No question about it: getting married is definitely the highlight of my past year. Other highlights include moving towards my new office space (with a lot of natural light, plants, a lovely wooden floor and a petrol colored wall), helping with a lot of activities and even hosting them (GeluksRoute Delft 2018, Strip der Ontmoeting, Open Coffee) and some wonderful stories of healing in my practice (a beautiful baby was born). 

What are you planning for 2019
2018 was my year of Connection, I made a lot of new connections which have filled me with gratitude and love, I have felt like the year was a bit of a big party as well with my marriage, but 2019 has a completely different vibe for me.

2019's theme is Truth, as I'm integrating a lot of work I have done in the past 10 years and finding out what works for me and what does not. I always prefer to start new things, new projects and meet new people, but now it's time to work some with the old. I also feel like it's more time to work on my own, instead of in groups. 

So, I'm planning on finally writing my book(s), getting all the knowledge concentrated and hopefully out there for a wider audience. I'm also seeing which of my old projects need more attention and which I will have to let go. I always caution people to see what they want to do less off, but since I have a lot of energy and a lot of people seeking my support, it's time I take a taste of my own medicine.

How do you choose your theme's for the Year?
I usually listen intently to the vibe of the new year, but also always do a year Reading, so I can see where to best employ my talents and energy in the year to come. I always offer this to my clients too. It helps a lot to know a bit of what you can expect, but also to see where things are most likely to happen or what kind of effect they have in your life.

Last year in 2018, it was quite clear, that I was getting married, as a Major Arcana card that has to do with commitment/marriage was in the August position, but funnily the second outside influences card showed Tropical Rain Forest Energy. Originally we discussed having our honeymoon in September, as August is high season and often quite expensive. When getting this card, I told my now husband that it was likely we would do Hawaii in August and it wasn't a surprise when a good deal showed up and we managed to book a cruise for the 25th.

Do you make New Year's Resolutions?
I always make those, tempered by what kind of year I expect, and I love setting time aside to see what my goals, wishes and dreams are for the year. During the year I have time where I review the steps I'm making in getting these things done and if the resolution still matches what I want. I'm big on keeping myself accountable, but also about being understanding about seeing priorities shift.

Do you have a good recommendation for me in 2019?
This year I decided to end the year and brainstorm about the new one with the Year Compass a free booklet that asks questions and  helps you sort through your year. I highly recommend it, it was a lot of fun to walk through my year again and to see what I value most out of it. It's free and available in several languages.

All the best for 2019,

Rianne Collignon